claudiaboleyn

shomacsalami:

masturbaedding:

shomacsalami:

Just curious, do gay men complain that bi men are “appropriating” terms like bear and twink like lesbians complain about bi women “appropriating” terms like butch, dyke, and femme? 

This post is utter trash
Why do you not get lesbophobia.
'Dyke' isn't your word wtf
The power dynamic between gay men and bi men is different. They’re all men that are sexually available to men.
Idk this whole post reeks of misunderstanding and lesbophobia.

Femme was coined by a lesbian who used it to describe her bisexual girlfriends. When the word homosexual came about, it was used to describe anyone who partook in same-gender sex/romance, no matter orientation, so these terms are used for all queer women (a-little-bi-furious, bidyke, and bisexual-books have entire posts on this, sources included). Stop claiming words used for queer women as only for lesbians jfc Also it’s really gross that you say gay and bi men are “sexually available” to men no one is just automatically sexually available to anyone???? Asserting the right to reclaim slurs that apply to me isn’t lesbophobia.

In fact, you can turn this in another direction: the Pride march was created by a bisexual woman (x), so are gays and lesbians appropriating Pride from bisexuals?

Get your head out of your ass, thanks. 。◕‿◕。 

medievalpoc

ofmanynames asked:

Serious question: Do you think it's okay for a white writer to have POC as main characters in their stories? I've gotten feedback from teachers and others ranging from "there's no reason to have X be Y race" to "it's disrespectful to write as another race you're not".

medievalpoc:

yndigot:

medievalpoc:

maryrobinette:

May I just jump in on one point, here? When teachers say, “there’s no reason to have X be Y race” what they really mean is “There’s no reason to have X be a race other than white.” 

Which is bullshit.

There’s no reason to have X be white either.

That whole mindset of only having a character of colour if it “means” something or serves some “purpose” in the story is reinforcing the paradigm of white as the default norm and dominent culture. It’s a really easy trap for white writers to fall into to take a character’s race or ethnicity and make it into a story conflict. A “reason” to be Y race.

While a person’s background will affect how a person handles conflict, your teachers are wrong to insist that people who are Y race need a “reason” to be allowed into a story.

^ Reblog for anyone who that might need that pointed out ;)

In my fiction workshop this past spring semester, I wrote a story in which all the main characters were chicano.

Why were they chicano?  Because I set the story in Texas. Because my family is largely chicanos from Texas. The actual story was about two brothers, now teenagers, dealing with their mother’s suicide, which had happened a number of years earlier when they were both young. The characters didn’t need to be chicano for me to tell that story.  

When my story got workshopped, I was asked repeatedly to ‘explore their cultural/ethnic background’ in subsequent drafts. 

One of the other stories was about a family reunion. It was written by a white writer about a white, southern family, and the experience I described was like nothing I had ever experienced with my family.  The food described was like nothing you’d find when my family gets together. The names were often distinctly white, southern US names. But the story was absolutely not about the experience of being white and southern, it was about families keeping secrets, and there was no reason for the family in the story to be white US southerners.  Still the comments that writer received were all about how relatable his story was, how that was exactly the way family reunions were, and no one asked him to spend more time exploring this family’s southern heritage in subsequent drafts.

I couldn’t help feeling that I was either being asked to justify my characters being chicano by making the story about chicano identity (which was never the story I wanted to tell), or that I was being asked to address my story to a white audience that wasn’t expected to be able to understand and identify with a chicano character the way I was expected to understand and identify with white characters.

I didn’t want to write a story where it ‘meant something’ that my characters were chicano. I wanted to write about brothers.  Did my character’s ethnic background inform how they handled trauma in their life?  Of course, in some ways. But the intense focus on the character’s ethnicity during the discussion of my work was distinctly uncomfortable. (I was asked if they were poor, despite it explicitly stating in the story that they lived in a fairly middle class neighborhood.  I was asked about their immigration status (these are fictional teenage boys in a story that was in no way about immigration!). I was asked if they lived on a reservation, presumably because all brown folk in the US southwest live on a reservation? I wasn’t sure what to make of that one.)

It was a weird, frustrating experience that made me very self-conscious about the story I’d chosen to share.  About a quarter of the students in the class were not white. Only one other student in that class wrote a story where the main character was not white.  I wouldn’t be surprised if other people felt uncomfortable having the class comment on stories about POC characters. I also wouldn’t be surprised if they’d simply been conditioned to think of white as the ‘default’ in literature and assumed that to write a character with their own racial or ethnic background, they’d have to justify it or make it a plot point.

^ A perfect and detailed example of how this functions in practice. Thanks for sharing your experience.

shesjamesevans

locksandglasses:

postracialcomments:

femmefrustration:

derseking:

femmefrustration:

mgodp:

femmefrustration:

word-riot:

femmefrustration:

I did a thing

this is the most ridiculous thing I’ve come across in a long time.

I understand the daily hardships that so many people have in a world ruled by white males.

I understand that sometimes this can make it feel as if all white males are the enemy (especially for those who fight for equality).

but posts like this need to stop.

you are not advancing anybodies rights.

you are not promoting anybodies equality.

this is not activism.

this is hate-mongering.

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Thanks for the contribution :)

I’ve lost track, am I even allowed an opinion these days? Whatever. How about this radical idea: Let’s treat each other equally, and then we’ll all be equal? All this mindless mud-slinging achieves nothing and only serves to demonstrate how true objectives of those involved (notably NOT equality). 

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You guys are good at this! :)

this isnt okay and you need to fuckin stop.

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Thanks!

Love

Forever.

lukariot
usmc-freedom-aint-free:

youareclearedhot-over:

foxinu:

nsfwjynx:

the-pink-mist:

There was a split second there where his like, “wait, what? bro what are you doing?” 
On more serious note, PTSD dogs for veterans are so fucking therapeutic. They’re like the one person you can spill your guts to and never worry about ever being judged or have that secret divulged. There are times when I definitely prefer the company of a dog over a human. 

Therapy animals save lives.

These dogs are even still so much more amazing. They check rooms before their handler enters, so they can clear it to help the person feel safe. Like in the gif, they are there when panic attacks or nightmares occur, to be something for the person to help ground themselves on, or yes just to turn on the lights. Even more amazing, many people are able to reduce their medication when they have a PTSD service dog there to help them. These dogs are useful for not just veterans, but also victims of abuse, accident trauma, natural disasters, and others. Their training allows them to be useful in situations where medical assistance is needed, as well. Some PTSD dogs are trained to recognize repetitive behaviours in handlers, and signal the handler to break the repetition and stopping the behaviour and possibly injury. 
Service dogs in general are just awesome. Remember to respect any that you see out in public. They are not there for you to walk up to and play with, even the puppies!

This tugs my heart

This made me emotional

usmc-freedom-aint-free:

youareclearedhot-over:

foxinu:

nsfwjynx:

the-pink-mist:

There was a split second there where his like, “wait, what? bro what are you doing?” 

On more serious note, PTSD dogs for veterans are so fucking therapeutic. They’re like the one person you can spill your guts to and never worry about ever being judged or have that secret divulged. There are times when I definitely prefer the company of a dog over a human. 

Therapy animals save lives.

These dogs are even still so much more amazing. They check rooms before their handler enters, so they can clear it to help the person feel safe. Like in the gif, they are there when panic attacks or nightmares occur, to be something for the person to help ground themselves on, or yes just to turn on the lights. Even more amazing, many people are able to reduce their medication when they have a PTSD service dog there to help them. These dogs are useful for not just veterans, but also victims of abuse, accident trauma, natural disasters, and others. Their training allows them to be useful in situations where medical assistance is needed, as well. Some PTSD dogs are trained to recognize repetitive behaviours in handlers, and signal the handler to break the repetition and stopping the behaviour and possibly injury. 

Service dogs in general are just awesome. Remember to respect any that you see out in public. They are not there for you to walk up to and play with, even the puppies!

This tugs my heart

This made me emotional

rosalarian

rosalarian:

thelingerieaddict:

buttononyourlips:

reverseracism:

lifandiveira:

riverclans:

lifandiveira:

asieybarbie:

ignore anyone who tells you otherwise.

No white girls?

no

Why? You do t think white girls should be told they’re beautiful?

The amount of white whine in the notes…it’s ridiculous.

Every time we ask for the inclusion of young girls and women of color in pieces similar to this, where everyone is white, we’re told

"If you want representation then make it yourself and shut up about this!"

“Let the artist make whatever they want and include whoever they want! Freedom of expression!”

"If you need to see someone who looks like you in order to feel included then you are the real racist."

Yet all I see in the notes are:

"If you want equality you have to include EVERYONE including white girls and guys!"

“it’s pathetic that the only way you can feel good about yourself is by excluding others.”

No doubt they feel some type of way with their own bodies but what is dedicating a piece such as this to women who fall no where near the Eurocentric standards of beauty taking away from white women when they have so much representations and campaigns centered around them.

~Eon

In case people like lifandiveira would like a simple explanation as to why white girls are not needed, go to images.google.com and type the word “beauty” and tell me what you get.

Seriously.

If you’re not blown away by the insanely disproportionate amount of white women depicted with a dash of women of color scattered about, then I don’t know what to tell you.

It is amazing how the exact same conversations happen again and again when women of color attempt to carve out space for themselves.

Even before I saw the notes I knew exactly what conversation I would find. This is beautiful and perfect.

claudiaboleyn
  • Glamour UK: What do you get riled up about in a feminist context?
  • Gillian Anderson: A lot. I have feminist bones and when I hear things or see people react to women in certain ways I have very little tolerance.
  • Glamour UK: But don't you feel sorry for modern men? Not knowing whether they should help us with our bags and open doors for us or whether we'll see it as an affront?
  • Gillian Anderson: No. I don't feel sorry for men.